The Terminology of “Trying”

My husband doesn’t like the phrase “we’re trying to get pregnant”.

I do see his point that it sounds a bit explicit if you think about it too hard (“We’re having lots of sex this month!”). But I’ve never been fond of anything milder.

The phrases “We’re leaving it up to chance” or “We’re letting whatever happens happen” tickle the edge of my brain as… odd, and maybe even naΓ―ve. I used to watch a couple communities about pregnancy and the refrain was “If you’re not using protection, then you are trying”.

Obviously there’s quite a gradient between charting and timing sex vs just stopping protection. But in my hyper-self-aware state right now, my logic is: every woman I know knows her cycle and therefore can infer the half-way point and and is deciding to go ahead with sex at the important time (or not). And if she decides to go ahead, she’s not leaving it up to much chance!

The logic falls apart since most women don’t pay as close attention to cycles as couples who want to get pregnant asap.

I understand that what I’m doing is very far from interventions like in vitro, but I feel like I should sound more decisive… take more responsibility? It’s definitely inaccurate to say we just left it to chance.

TTC is the easy way to say it on the web but I don’t feel like out loud, “trying to conceive” sounds different from “trying to get pregnant.” Maybe I could say the letters out loud: “We’re Tee Tee See” and only explaining it means “trying to conceive” if I get weird looks. I guess since it’s more clinical it’s also less explicit.

8 Responses to The Terminology of “Trying”

  1. Nancy says:

    What a great blog

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  3. Ashley says:

    I read an article about this lately. Apparently “leaving it to chance” has become more common lately, and is less healthy. Women are less inclined to give up alcohol, make sure they are eating healthy, and take vitamins. So who cares if you’re advertising your sex life!

    I love the concept, can’t wait for the happy news so you have an excuse to write more πŸ™‚

    • Kaitlyn says:

      Wow! I hadn’t thought of the other extreme. If you stumble back on that article I would love to read it.

      Thanks! I can’t wait either πŸ˜›

  4. Vinay says:

    I wish to note that if somebody told me they were TTC, my only response would be ‘the whole thing?’

    • Kaitlyn says:

      LOL it was a funny Google search too!

      The acronyms in the forums make up a whole other language. They even have a euphemism for “sex” – bedding down (bd). Here I was thinking “sex” was already a euphemism… I blame Big Bang Theory and their use of “sexual intercourse” making me think anything else is just a fluffy word for it.

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